This memorial website was created in the memory of my mother Alfa Ellen (Ellie) White who was born in Oklahoma on November 19, 1938 and left with the angels on November 5, 2006 at the age of 67. She brought joy to everyone she met with her smile. She touched the hearts of everyone she met with her laughter. Ellie loved to go riding on the golf cart and to feed the ducks. She loved to go shopping, color her posters, and spend time with her loved ones and her friends and my dog Brigitte. Her favorite TV show was the Food Network. She loved her candy!!! Even though her speech was limited from her stroke, she knew how to express her love.

When Ellie had her stroke 13 years ago, she was in the hospital for 7 months. The doctors told us that she would never wake up. But she did. She then learned to eat, etc. and was just a miracle. She went through several surgeries. Ellie wanted to live. After her stroke, Mom was like a little girl again. She loved to sing, play with her dolls and color her posters. She was quite good especially since now she had to use her left hand. But in her own way, she was still My mom. We kind of reversed roles. She would call me Mom. It was if I now had three kids. She came to live with me and my kids for six years.  When I moved to Texas, she came with me. She stayed at Happy Harbor where she had lots of friends in the community and the church. We spent lots of time on my golf cart riding around and feeding the ducks. She loved to go out to eat on The Boardwalk. She also loved to go shopping at Wal Mart. She was quite a character riding the automatic wheel chairs! Her favorite words were "E-boy!" Then she was diagnosed with sarcoma cancer in June of 2006. We thought she could beat this since she survived her stroke and all of it's complications. But God had a different plan for Ellie. After her struggle, her little body gave out and it was time for Ellie to go dance with the angels and to be free of any more pain. The last month was extremely difficult and it was so very hard to let her go. She would never have to hurt again. The child in her didn't understand why she hurt so much. I don't feel like a just lost my mom, but in alot of ways, I also lost my child. I took care of my mom for 13 years and would do it all again to have her back with me. She was not only my mom but my best friend and I am lost without her. But I know she is in a better place now. There was never a day that Ellie didn't know that she was loved. She was so very special. She will be missed so much.

  Ellie 
 

 







 


Mom & Her Sisters

 

 

Ellie, Mary, Barbara & Dustin












                

Mom & Her Best Friend Gloria






 








LINDSAY & HER GRANDMA





    

Miss You Mom

I used to think that people didn't need
their moms so much after they grew up
But I've realized that is not true
So often, when I am making a decision
I wish you were here
So I could ask your advice
And so many times
when something happens
that I know you would enjoy
I wish you were here
to share it with me
Now that I'm older
I've realized how special our relationship is
And while I'm thankful for this bond
Somehow it makes me miss you more
Mom, I Love You So Much.









FAREWELL 

I am so lonely Momma
Since God took you away
There is a part of me missing
Things will never be the same
Sometimes I feel you near
I hang my head and cry
Wishing you were here
I want you to talk to me
Like you used to do
Why did God choose you? 

In Loving Memory of Alfa Ellen White
Who took the hand of an angel on
November 5, 2006

Ellen is luminous, but not like the sun
Like the pale green lanterns on a silver lake
Like the moonwashed ripples in a silent wake
Ever elusive her spirit is spun
Not of innocence; but of pain overcome

                       




Ellie's memorial service was on November 18, 2006 at Happy Harbor Methodist Home. Service was by Chaplain Rogers Thomson. Lots of Ellie's friends and family were there to share this memorial for Miss Ellie. At the end of the service, there was a balloon release with over 300 pink and white heart balloons. After the balloons were no longer in our sights, we all shared our memories of Ellie. I will be releasing balloons in my mother's memory every year on her angelversay.She will be forever missed and loved.